If an interrogator (or narcissist) wants to force their subject into learned helplessness, the first step is to establish a connection.
And what’s the narcissist’s tool for establishing connection? Cognitive empathy.
Using Cognitive Empathy to Get What They Want
As you can see, the narcissist’s lack of empathy is a myth because they need to use cognitive empathy to get what they want from those around them.
The interrogator wants to get information, the salesperson wants to sell a car, and the lawyer wants to win their case. In all of these situations, they need cognitive empathy to get into the subject’s head. They need to understand the subject’s feelings and thoughts which they can then manipulate into producing an outcome that’s most beneficial to them.